Let's Talk About Sex

I've been quite pre-occupied with thoughts of sex for a while now. Everyone I know seems to have done it, is doing it or has plans to do it soon. I've heard different stories that have really roused my curiosity. All the guys that I've spoken with about sex, say they find it extremely pleasurable, but that's not always the case with women.

A very good friend of mine told me that she had sex for the first time at eighteen. She said that the first time was really uncomfortable and clumsy. But now she finds it really mind blowing, although it took her one whole year, to get comfortable enough to start enjoying it and now even climaxes before her boyfriend. Another girl told me she has never enjoyed it and she cried and cried the first time it happened. Someone even likened her first time to the feeling of driving a stick forcefully up her nose! The mixed reviews has got me all worried. I have always dreamed that my wedding night will be magical, with me wearing some really sexy lingerie for my man. But I'm told not to expect too much and I'm disappointed already. Some say that the men are just out to get some, and that after they are done, they leave the woman wanting! I have spoken to my Boo about this and he assures me of a pleasurable experience, even though he is a novice himself!

On the other hand, the guys had really nice stories about sex. Didn't hear any serious complaints, although one lamented that he wished his chick would be more adventurous in bed. He said she never let him go down on her (say what? *cringe*) nor would she go down on him ( ok, that's where I draw the line! For real?). Some of the guys also had the fantasy of doing it in every room of the house, in the car, at the park, at the office, on the plane (not realistic!). I see all this stuff in movies, but I wonder if these positions are comfortable or even doable not to talk of enjoyable. Another recurring fantasy among the men, was having sex in a place where the possibility of getting caught was high.

I want to know how a woman can enjoy sex. I don't want to ever have to fake.. um.. you know. I guess what I'm trying to do is get some real people up in here to break it down for me. I've read books, but it's all the same very academic stuff. Someone suggested I watch porn, but hell no, it hasn't gotten to that. I have even taken a mirror and looked at myself. The hole is so tiny and I wonder if a cotton bud can pass through, let alone a man's organ (It's so hard for me to type the real names, *blinks shyly*). Please people talk to me.